I am definitely one of those people who say sorry one too many times, some which I never had to. When the word sorry is at the tip of your tongue, people can find it easy to take advantage of you. How, you may ask? They will do bad things but turn it back to you and force you to cough out an apology just so they feel good about their bad ways.
If you find yourself apologizing a lot, below is a list of 5 things that you never have to say sorry for:
1. Owning your story
We have all lived our lives differently and what this means is that our stories are going to be different. Most people have very humbling or painful pasts. It is totally unfair to capitalize on someone’s story that they own. Do not make someone apologize for how dark their pasts are. They are here now and that is what should matter.
2. Your emotions
No one should make you feel bad and end up apologizing for feeling the way you feel. If you are sad, no one on this planet should make you feel guilty just because you are sad and crying and they do not know how to handle you. If they cannot help you process your emotions, they should leave you alone. No person should make you cry even more just because they do not understand why you are sad. If they wanted to, they would.
3. Having your own opinion
Truth is; we need to accept one thing here: You will always meet someone that has a contradicting opinion from yours. If I am pro-gayism, there is going to be someone who is anti-gayism and has thoughts and facts to prove himself right. However, this does not mean that anyone is wrong or right. Having different opinions is just one way of showing up that there exist millions of different people in this world. There is beauty in diversity.
4. Saying No
People need to realize that no means no and is not an invitation for coercion. No person should have to apologize for saying no. It was their decision and you need to respect that.
5. Who you are
Someone, you find yourself apologizing for being hardworking, keen, patient, caring, creative or even honest. You are you and that means your traits will be unique. You can be forgiving but that does not mean that you are always on the wrong. Set limits and know when to not apologize. No one should ever have to apologize for being who they are. There is no one quite like you.
Raisa Ichalut is a futuristic, wellness- nichéd Content Creator who seeks to use this website as a tool that informs, empowers, and enlightens people on topics around self- discovery, development, and love, general wellness, positivism, energy, healing, and mindfulness.