Being in love is definitely one of the most astounding things, if not it. When you are in love, nothing else comes first. You want to tell this other person every detail about your day, your goals, dreams, losses and all of the in-betweens. Yet, modern relationships crumble faster than they even began. We live in a time when there are so many relationships that fail to work and the reasons are nothing close to what led to break-ups say, 20 years ago. Below are 7 major things that kill most modern relationships:
1. Failing to set their intentions clear
If I am in the relationship solely because you have money and you spend it on me whereas you are in it because you love my bum, chances are, the relationship will not last. This is because if I meet a person richer than you, I will definitely leave you for him. Also, look at it this way; if you end up losing all the money you have, there will be nothing left keeping me with you. If you also happen to meet a lady that has a bigger bum than mine, things will start going south.
Most people these days find themselves in situations where there is unrequited love. If I deeply love you but you do not feel the same way for me, I will eventually get tired and the relationship will crumble. Make sure you are in love with someone who loves you with the same capacity you do or even more. If not, dear one, it will end in premium tears.
3. Dishonesty and Cheating
Let me tell you something you probably already know: Nairobi is full of entanglements. Call it one big bedroom if you may, Just as Edgar Obare says. People are chewing and eating each other left, right and center and no one wants to admit it. I even had to butcher English just so the point could be driven home. Someone could be in 5 different relationships but will never mention the same to the partner. If asked, they will tell you ‘he/she is just a friend.’ Lack of honesty is definitely at the core of reasons why modern day relationships crumble.
4. Social media
It goes down in the DM. Yes ladies and gents, it does. Social media has made it so easy for people to reach one another. Platforms like Instagram promote visual competition where one can see many people that look good and they end up shooting their shot even if they are in a beautiful relationship. One could be lying next to you but still be flirting with another lady or man who is miles away. Crazy but true times we live in. Social media also creates unhealthy comparison that makes couples to feel like they are not in love enough.
5. Dating or marrying for the wrong reasons
Different people date or marry for various reasons. If you find yourself dating someone for shallow reasons such as they give you money, they post you on social media or they pay rent for you, then you probably need to find better reasons to stick around. This is because you need to be with them because of who they are and not what they have (or don’t)
I have heard so many cases of people meeting and before a week is over, they are already dating. Again, this is not supposed to state that this is wrong. However, more often than not, such relationships end up dying fast because the 2 never took time to know each other. Learn to be friends before being lovers.
7. Money or lack of
I am sure that you knew that this had to be somewhere on this list else this article would be null and void. Many people have been dumped because the person they were broke with suddenly has money and has a different taste right now. The inverse is absolutely true.