Truth is, every relationship is different. You cannot expect someone to do things or act the same way they did in their previous relationship. However, there are some non-negotiables that exist when it comes to how 2 people in love go about their lives. Below are 5 things that any man should never tell his woman to do:
1. Quit her job
It pains my heart to come across horror stories of how men forced their women to quit their job. Do not quote me wrong, I understand that sometimes there are pressing issues that necessitate for this to happen, but in most cases, when this happens, it is usually a selfish approach from the man’s side. Ladies, if you must quit your job, let it be because you want to. Also, make sure that you have a source of income that will prevent you from entirely depending on your boyfriend or husband for everything. Sooner or later, you will realize how financial independence is really important in every relationship.
2. Dress ‘Decently’
‘My dress my choice’ should be a standard phrase whether one is in a relationship or not. As women, we tend to have different outfits for offices, dates with our girls, dinner dates with the hubby, church or for grocery shopping. All in all, as long as you are comfortable and classy, you are good to go. One person’s definition of decent could mean something else to another person.
3. Lose or Gain weight
If your man wants you to lose or gain weight just because they love their women skinny or a little bit curvy, then he is doing you wrong. This because if he really loves you, he will not mind how you look like. However, if he tells you to do the above because it is beneficial for your health and wellbeing, then he is your greatest cheerleader. If he helps you jog, is your gym partner and helps you watch what you eat, then that is a keeper. Just learn to know the difference between someone who is helping you be better and someone who is trying to force you to look like someone else.
4. Cut off Your Friends and Family
I understand that sometimes, some friends and family members can be toxic. As a human being, you slowly learn how to draw boundaries to people you held close but had no choice but to. Let it be a personal decision. Sometimes though, we get so blinded by love that our partners make it so difficult for us to talk to or spend time with our family members or even close friends. We get to be at our beck and call but when we want to visit our friends, they come up with an excuse as to why we should not. A man who loves and cares for you should encourage you to build lasting relationships with those you hold dear.
5. Get Contraceptives
Hormonal contraceptives are the common form of long-term contraceptives in the market. In as much as they do the job, our bodies go through a lot. It could be hormonal acne, mood swings, weight loss/gain or even irregular periods. If your man wants you to get contraceptives, let him know of the consequences as well. Let him be okay with what they may put you through.